Every month I get a bevy of magazines.
It all started when my dad got some kind of notice from Delta, telling him that if he didn't use some of his frequent flyer miles that they were going to be terminated. If he just wanted to use some of them to purchase magazines from the enclosed list that would be enough to keep them active for a while longer. Mama called and asked which ones I'd be interested in. So I ended up getting Vogue, W, Food and Wine, Stuff and Harper's Bazaar in addition to my already standing subscription to Jane. Needless to say I have a million magazines strewn about the place and I am getting rid of most of them.
However, in my attempt to get rid of a box full of them I came across December's issue of Bazaar and decided to read an article I'd missed about Catherine Zeta Jones. It turned out to be somewhat interesting. She talks a lot about being a woman and what that means to her. I found myself agreeing with her over and over. She talks about her marriage to Michael Douglas, and how even though they love their children it's important to have time for the marriage itself. I was impressed. Her view of marriage and children is much like the idea D and I have always had.
Neither of our mothers were the kind of moms who fussed over us constantly as children and we are both so grateful for it, we're not the kind of people who can't stand to be alone. I saw it some in high school, but noticed it more in college. There were girls, in the dorms, who couldn't stand to be alone. They'd come and sit in your room and just hang out, no purpose, not even really wanting to talk. They just wanted to be with someone else. They felt so needy. They were the same girls who got on their cell phones the minute they left class, so as not to be alone on their walk home. I confused them. They didn't understand why I didn't always need to be with them. Eventually I gave in, I wanted to have friends. But I've gone back to the way I was before that now. I think it still confuses other people.
E said to me, not too long ago how it confused him at first how mean other girls were to me in college. He thought to himself "She's a great girl, why are people so afraid of her?" Then he realized how threatened most of those girls felt. They didn't feel that they I needed to be friends with them. I stopped spending time worrying about that stuff a long time ago, so I asked him why he was thinking about it. Apparently his new girlfriend is a lot the same way and she's had a lot of trouble making girl friends. It is hard.
I love being a woman. While it may not be the most typically feminist thing to say I believe that to be a true feminist it's important to embrace femininity instead of trying to beat men at their own game. Women should be powerful as women. By buying into the idea that qualities that are considered feminine are weak and that masculine qualities are stronger we do ourselves a disservice. The things that make us women can make us as strong or stronger than men. I think it's important to recognize that and appreciate it, we'll get farther as a gender that way.
In other words; I wish women would stop being so damn catty.
It all started when my dad got some kind of notice from Delta, telling him that if he didn't use some of his frequent flyer miles that they were going to be terminated. If he just wanted to use some of them to purchase magazines from the enclosed list that would be enough to keep them active for a while longer. Mama called and asked which ones I'd be interested in. So I ended up getting Vogue, W, Food and Wine, Stuff and Harper's Bazaar in addition to my already standing subscription to Jane. Needless to say I have a million magazines strewn about the place and I am getting rid of most of them.
However, in my attempt to get rid of a box full of them I came across December's issue of Bazaar and decided to read an article I'd missed about Catherine Zeta Jones. It turned out to be somewhat interesting. She talks a lot about being a woman and what that means to her. I found myself agreeing with her over and over. She talks about her marriage to Michael Douglas, and how even though they love their children it's important to have time for the marriage itself. I was impressed. Her view of marriage and children is much like the idea D and I have always had.
Neither of our mothers were the kind of moms who fussed over us constantly as children and we are both so grateful for it, we're not the kind of people who can't stand to be alone. I saw it some in high school, but noticed it more in college. There were girls, in the dorms, who couldn't stand to be alone. They'd come and sit in your room and just hang out, no purpose, not even really wanting to talk. They just wanted to be with someone else. They felt so needy. They were the same girls who got on their cell phones the minute they left class, so as not to be alone on their walk home. I confused them. They didn't understand why I didn't always need to be with them. Eventually I gave in, I wanted to have friends. But I've gone back to the way I was before that now. I think it still confuses other people.
E said to me, not too long ago how it confused him at first how mean other girls were to me in college. He thought to himself "She's a great girl, why are people so afraid of her?" Then he realized how threatened most of those girls felt. They didn't feel that they I needed to be friends with them. I stopped spending time worrying about that stuff a long time ago, so I asked him why he was thinking about it. Apparently his new girlfriend is a lot the same way and she's had a lot of trouble making girl friends. It is hard.
I love being a woman. While it may not be the most typically feminist thing to say I believe that to be a true feminist it's important to embrace femininity instead of trying to beat men at their own game. Women should be powerful as women. By buying into the idea that qualities that are considered feminine are weak and that masculine qualities are stronger we do ourselves a disservice. The things that make us women can make us as strong or stronger than men. I think it's important to recognize that and appreciate it, we'll get farther as a gender that way.
In other words; I wish women would stop being so damn catty.
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