I just got into a spectacular fight with my mother. About registration for school. She actually told me to fuck off. I thought that was particularly inappropriate.
It is so hard for people in my family to admit that they're wrong. I've gotten much better at it the last few years. Sometimes you have to just give in and say "Yes. I'm wrong. I'm sorry." I hate fighting with the people closest to me, so I've gotten to that point where just saying that I'm wrong when I know I'm being unreasonable seems better than extending the fight.
Apparently, nobody else in my family is quite there yet. Apparently, I'm an irresponsible ass for not making my advising appointments sooner. And apparently it is ok to stand in the middle of my apartment screaming at me about it. I got the "Maybe if you weren't so distracted with your PERSONAL LIFE you wouldn't be so confused about what credits transferred." Riiiiggghhht. It must be D's fault. I really hate that. I'm confused about what credits transferred because the damn counselors are the epitome of vague, not because D and I got back together. Somehow though my mother believes that I have the magical ability to make them just "tell you the truth"... Better yet she believes that SHE has that power. She thinks that if she marches into the counseling offices at my school that they will automatically explain in perfect clarity to her what they will not to me. Because I must be the one with the problem. It is obviously me who isn't understanding. I should have made them SIGN something, legally binding them to the graduation requirements. When I tried to explain to her that it was not my complete dumassary that causes them to be so vague, that it is the way they make us have a "Core Requirement" counselor AND a "Major Requirement" counselor who refuse to speak to one another that causes all the confusion I was screamed at to shut up. I sooooo, sooooo wish that she was not paying for school. It makes me want to throw up that to placate her I will have to say that I'M sorry so that she won't freak out and take all the money away. Because at this point it would be very difficult to start taking out loans. A real pain in the ass.
It is so hard for people in my family to admit that they're wrong. I've gotten much better at it the last few years. Sometimes you have to just give in and say "Yes. I'm wrong. I'm sorry." I hate fighting with the people closest to me, so I've gotten to that point where just saying that I'm wrong when I know I'm being unreasonable seems better than extending the fight.
Apparently, nobody else in my family is quite there yet. Apparently, I'm an irresponsible ass for not making my advising appointments sooner. And apparently it is ok to stand in the middle of my apartment screaming at me about it. I got the "Maybe if you weren't so distracted with your PERSONAL LIFE you wouldn't be so confused about what credits transferred." Riiiiggghhht. It must be D's fault. I really hate that. I'm confused about what credits transferred because the damn counselors are the epitome of vague, not because D and I got back together. Somehow though my mother believes that I have the magical ability to make them just "tell you the truth"... Better yet she believes that SHE has that power. She thinks that if she marches into the counseling offices at my school that they will automatically explain in perfect clarity to her what they will not to me. Because I must be the one with the problem. It is obviously me who isn't understanding. I should have made them SIGN something, legally binding them to the graduation requirements. When I tried to explain to her that it was not my complete dumassary that causes them to be so vague, that it is the way they make us have a "Core Requirement" counselor AND a "Major Requirement" counselor who refuse to speak to one another that causes all the confusion I was screamed at to shut up. I sooooo, sooooo wish that she was not paying for school. It makes me want to throw up that to placate her I will have to say that I'M sorry so that she won't freak out and take all the money away. Because at this point it would be very difficult to start taking out loans. A real pain in the ass.
2 Comments:
You know, seriously, I've never met any woman who gets on with their mother.
However, you mother telling you to Shut Up and Fuck off is SO completely out of order. It doesn't matter if she's paying your bills, she should still show some respect. There's this bizarre social more that says that children should always respect their parents, but, it's perfectly OK for THEM to be complete eejits.
Grr....
Oh I dont know - If my mum told me to fuck off I think Id die laughing. Of course, Id tell her to fuck off right back - even if I was cutting off the hand that fed me! Besides if you said it back after she said it to you whats her come back? - "how dare you?" Fall on deaf ears that would!
Unfortunately - aside from the fuck off bit, I know and you know that somewhere in there she's prolly got a valid point. Thats the suck bit about parents... they've been there, done that and got the t-shirt.
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