Men and women really don't speak the same language.

We were lying in bed, discussing a pot of liquid latex that he bought almost two years ago. My contention was that he'd bought it, thinking he'd use it with someone else. His was that he'd bought it to use with me.

But he was using that I'm-your-boyfriend-so-that's-what-I-have-to-say voice, you know; the one that tells you your ass doesn't look fat in those pants that you know are a size too small for you. So I didn't believe him, I said "But we weren't even together then" and he said "But I was only sleeping with you". Which led me to mutter “Right” which led him to say, “You know I didn’t have time to find someone else to sleep with”? And inside I just shuddered. I know what he meant; he meant, "You know I only wanted you." Somehow, when it made its way through the guy-filter and over his vocal chords, it came out like I was just his convenience screw.

And I’m laying there in the dark thinking, "I was like the combo meal you buy because it costs too much to buy each item separately. I was the friend, the cheerleader and the lover. It would have cost too much time to find and cultivate relationships with three different people, so it was better to choose the combo, me. Costs less. Then it just stuck, now the combo meal is just the easiest thing, saving has starting looking more attractive. He's just grown lazy."

Seriously, I thought that.

Then I just thought; "I know that's not exactly what he meant, but why can't he say it in a better way?" Then he accidentally pulled the covers off me and I said, "I don't know why you can't find a better way to say things." But he was asleep. In all the time it took me to think that one up, he'd just drifted off. No worries on his part. He sort of sleepily patted my hand, and I knew he was out.

That's when I got up, and why it's almost four in the morning when I'm writing this. I'm not so much upset as I am curious. How do guys NOT know that some of the things they say to us are just totally insensitive? Most of us, who really love our significant others, and know that they really love us, can ignore a certain amount of it... But really, why do we have to ignore it? Why can't guys just try a little harder not to say stuff like that? Maybe that's just a naive, juvenile thing to wonder, but I do. I wonder what it'd be like if women stopped being so sensitive to the things we said to guys...

Like if we just casually mentioned when telling a story about an ex "He always had a bunch of cash on him, y'know? He never let me pay for a thing" (right after you've just paid for the groceries) or "Wow, honey, you had more hair when we met didn't you?" or possibly "I just got off the phone with your mom and she said the bitchiest thing to me, AGAIN." Guys would be crushed. If we just said the things that came to our thoughts first, the things that are true, but somehow imply that we think less of them. I don't know maybe some ladies out there say that stuff, but not too many of the ladies I know do. Mostly, we just say that crap to each other.

I'm not too worried about the whole thing. In a minute, I'm going to go crawl in bed next to my boy and he'll be warm and sweet. He'll probably hug me and then we'll both drift off. The only reminder of the minor stab of pain I felt when he said that will be this post. Since I don't read over my own work too often it'll have past by the time he's said something else that's incredibly moronic. Then I'll just complain again. Which IS what I do.